True Compatibility Between Husband And Wife

Doesn't exist, so shrug off small conflicts.

- Padmini Singh

Monica and Manish married after a long courtship of over two years when they got convinced about love and the feeling that they were meant for each other and must marry. But within two years of marriage their dreams were shattered as they found that their habits, likings, attitudes, approach to life and views differed so much that every day they started arguing, fighting and hurling abuses and curses on each other.

They themselves were surprised how come they missed noticing each other’s shortcomings during their courtship period. Both men and women in their formal meetings are apt to hide many weaknesses of theirs that are revealed only when they stay together after marriage.

Happiness grows directly in proportion to your acceptance of the situation and in inverse proportion to your expectations. That irreconcilable differences are normal, and you just have to come to terms with them, not try to resolve the unresolvable. At some level, that should have been obvious.

Why do conflicts crop up

It is not possible for two persons,that is husband and wife, hailing from different backgrounds to have similar views on every issue and there are bound to be differences of opinion which should be treated as a normal way of life. Most conflicts often start on petty, trivial and minor issues which can be sorted out amicably and easily if one keeps one’s cool. A great marriage does not mean no conflict by reconciling peacefully, whatever may be the reasons of conflict, always make up by the end of the day.

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS

Adjust by co-operation and compromise