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Essence
|January 2017
How to Take Back the Reins to Fulfill Your Destiny.
As senior director of marketing at LaFace Records in the 1990’s, I was responsible for the marketing of some of the biggest artists, including Toni Braxton, TLC and Usher. I was in my late twenties and making six figures, complete with a luxury car allowance and an unlimited expense account. I bought my mom a home. I loved the people I worked with. And I was miserable. I felt stuck in this amazing life that I had created for myself. How on earth could I have the career of my dreams yet feel so empty?
I agonized for months over this question, and then it hit me: I was spending 100 percent of my time on 10 percent of who I was, expecting 100 percent of my fulfillment. I discovered I didn’t just want a good career, I wanted a great life. So I redesigned how I lived and now coach others to do the same.
When I ask my clients how they feel about something, I never allow them to say, “I don’t know.” The truth is, we always know what’s going on. We may not want to accept our truth, make difficult decisions or commit to doing the work the truth requires. But we always know.
When I resigned from my job, I realized there are many people struggling with the same challenges to reimagine their lives. I figured out common ways we are kept stuck and the solutions to get us moving.
In my new book, Exponential Living: Stop Spending 100% of Your Time on 10% of Who You Are (NAL), I explain how
This story is from the January 2017 edition of Essence.
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