The Difference Between Trust and Respect

DR. ICHAK ADIZES shares some thoughts on the nature of mutual trust and respect, and why we can trust without respecting, and respect without trusting.

- DR. ICHAK ADIZES

In common conversations, we often use these concepts interchangeably as if they are synonyms. Not so. Let me explain.

The philosopher Emanuel Kant defines respect as “the sovereignty the other person has to think differently,” commonly known as the freedom of speech. Mutual respect is one of the cultural pillars of democracy.

I went one step further and asked myself, why should I respect those who disagree with me? Because I learn from their disagreements.

In the Hebrew language, we use two words to communicate respect: honor and appreciation. In my way of thinking, mutual respect is synonymous with mutual appreciation. I appreciate you disagreeing as long as it is done respectfully, i.e., you are open to learning from my disagreements.

When there is diversity and mutual respect among the parties, synergy occurs. The exchange creates added value as a result of the exchange and learning.

Now, the question is why should people with diverse knowledge or judgment exchange their positions? It takes energy and time.