We're arguing and want to live apart but stay together

MY partner and I have two children together aged four and two, but we're not getting on living with each other.

- 

We've found that if we have some time apart we get on well, but things revert to being stressful once we've been living under the same roof again for a while. We love each other - that's not in question ~ but cohabiting at this stage in our lives is a nightmare.

‘We argue a lot over the kids, as we have different parenting styles. He's pretty old school and quite strict, which I hate, whereas I'm much more relaxed and like to give the kids more freedom. We both work, so the juggle is real, and were tired and grumpy a lot of the time, which doesn't help.

Recently, we've talked about living apart but staying together as a couple. I know it's unconventional when you have kids, but I think it could work for us.