WHOSE JOB IS IT TO LOVE ME?

Should you love yourself first? I’m not talking about ego or narcissism—I'm talking about healthy, grounded, essential self-love. And yes, the question matters: Whose responsibility is it?

- BY JACE JACOBS

Picture this: you're sitting on an airplane waiting for takeoff. The flight attendant steps into the aisle and goes through the familiar safety instructions.

“Put on your oxygen mask first before helping others.”

There’s a reason for that.

If the cabin loses oxygen and you rush to help everyone else first, you risk passing out. And once you're out, how much value can you offer?

Exactly—none.