Understanding the real pain caused by a partner's betrayal

've said it for years - quietly at first, then louder when I realised how many people were carrying the same wound: Physical infidelity isn't the thing that destroys you.

- REBECCA JANE

It shocks. It knocks the breath out of your lungs. But it is rarely the fatal blow.

What really breaks people is everything wrapped around it - the choices made with a steady conscience, the quiet betrayals, the slow erosion of trust that leaves you questioning not only your partner, but your own sense of reality.

With 'Divorce Day' creeping up next month, that strange cultural moment when solicitors' offices fill with the weight of broken promises, it feels right to confront the truth many of us live through but rarely say out loud: It's not the sex.