Principles Of Conversation

Back at the turn of the 20th century, the great yogi RAM CHANDRA OF FATEHGARH (LALAJI) shared some tips about communication with his associates in a small town of northern India. Today these principles are even more relevant in corporate boardrooms, parliaments, universities and school classrooms the world over. Imagine if we could all follow this approach to communicating with others! The world would be transformed.

- Ram Chandra Of Fatehgarh

The style of speech should be devoid of rise and fall in pitch. On the contrary, it should be like the divine current, flowing evenly since the beginning of creation. I had copied just that and innumerable are its benefits, beyond the possibility of narration.

This is a philosophy, that when the flow of conversation proceeds in conformity with Reality, there develops a state of harmony between the two. Through that harmony, the divine way starts developing automatically. This results in ineffectiveness, as whatever is spoken goes on touching the hearts of others. In other words, a sort of relationship with the current of Reality is established. When a relationship is created, effectiveness has to be there. If we copy it, only those words will flow during a conversation that are intended and is right.

To achieve this, we, first of all, try to remove the rise and fall in the voice while speaking, which is also called sharpness. This flow of speech will go on acquiring harmony with the current of Reality, to the extent that such a reduction is achieved progressively. By ‘sharpness’ I do not only imply anger, which is very heavy and should not be allowed at all in this context. What I mean is that the flow of speech should not carry any kind of weight in it. An illustration of this is a current of still air. It is very difficult to achieve, but everything is possible through sustained effort and courage if the Grace of the Guru is there.