Why You Need To Have The (Mini) Talk

Forget having the talk. Here’s why lower-pressure convos are the new road to committed.

- Emily C Johnson

You meet up, and you keep on hooking up, until one day, after months of in-depth text deciphering and friend consults, you have the big ‘Define the Relationship Talk’. Then you’ve passed Go—you have a Boyfriend.

That may be how relationships usually go, but lately, more women are forgoing one DTR talk and instead having several mini-talks about their relationship status on the way to coupledom. “I’ve had mini-talks going into my last six relationships,” says Sanya, 27. “I don’t rush to ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend’. I have had smaller talks about whether we want to keep seeing each other, if we’re sleeping with anyone else, and if we should deactivate our online-dating accounts. Breaking it down into smaller steps means the final convo isn’t scary.”