The Scary Sex Thing Some Guys Are Doing

An alarming act called stealthing is now being recognised as a serious violation. Stay safe with this must-know info.

- Stacey Colino

It’s not going to be pleasant but picture this: you’re with a guy and the sex feels really good. But when you look down, you see him pumping away unprotected, after having secretly pulled off his condom.

This is ‘stealthing’, an abhorrent practice that’s been getting more and more attention after an article in the Columbia Journal Of Gender And Law described it as a form of sexual assault. Stealthing quickly transforms consensual sex by disregarding the terms—condom use— both partners agreed to, explains author, Alexandra Brodsky, a civil rights attorney. It happens most often in hook-up or casual-sex situations, and can leave victims feeling duped, disrespected, angry and ashamed— and fearing STIs and pregnancies. “It’s an invisible form of violence that’s been going on for a while,” says Alexandra. Now, it finally has a name.

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