Ask For More

Increase your pleasure and forge a deeper bond by initiating sex tonight.

- Hemchhaya De

An anonymous blog on Tumblr, how to make me come, dedicated to women discussing sex, says, “Women are raised from birth to take treatment and receive behaviours, and not tell the truth about what we want/ like.” The blog rails against the notion that women are passive agents in bed.

Traditionally, men are always assigned the role of sex initiator. Global studies, however, show women are as libidinous as men and equally keen on initiating sex. An eye-opening survey, done a couple of years ago by the fertility app Kindara, came up with some myth-busting data. Out of the 500 women polled across the world, 75 per cent said they would like to be having sex more than three times a week. About 13 per cent said they would like to have sex six times a week.

But women still hesitate to initiate sex. “The fear of being seen or judged as ‘sex-starved’ is what typically holds a woman back from expressing her desires,” says Padmini Dutt Sharma, an American author who writes on marriage, relationship and female sexuality. “Indian women have been taught to believe that they must play a subordinate role, and keep themselves subjugated to the master’s will.”