Help! my husband's AGEING faster than me

What happens if you're 50 going on 30, but your partner is more excited about getting their OAP bus pass?

- BESS BROWNING

We all know we change as we age - and when we're in long-term relationships, we may change in very different ways to our partners. For some, midlife unlocks exciting new windows of opportunity - there's all that new-found freedom to travel and socialise once the children have moved out and retirement beckons. But others are quite happy to slow down, enjoy the peace and quiet, and spend more time in their slippers. So what happens if you and your partner are lured up different paths in your golden years? What if one of you is happy on the sofa with a crime novel and a cuppa, while the other wants to go bungee jumping in the Canadian Rockies? Empty nester Sam Cummings reveals what it's like when you want to enjoy the lifestyle you had in your 30s, while your husband wants to embrace the gentle joys of middle age.

I noticed a shift in our behaviour

Sam Cummings, 53, from Poole in Dorset, is married to Leigh, 51.

As I regaled my friends with stories about my latest holiday to Cyprus and the two-week tour of the US I had just booked, one of them asked if my husband Leigh was looking forward to it too. But Leigh wasn’t coming with me. Nor was he joining me for that evening’s dinner with friends, my weekend trip to London or my weekly quiz night.

At 51, Leigh is two years younger than me, but we would both agree, while he is warmly welcoming the simpler pleasures of midlife, I am rediscovering my youth. Since retiring from sales management in September, I’ve embraced my freedom and seized every opportunity for fun and travel – often without him, because he doesn’t want to do the same things.