"I'm a new empty-nester, and I feel lost"

Raising happy, independent kids is a goal of most parents. Yet it still hurts when they fly the coop. Here, how to thrive in this new phase of life

- BY KRISTINA MASTROCOLA

Feel it all

Validate your emotions

One universal truth about empty nesting? You're going to feel “big things,” says expert Kami Gilmour, who likens this journey to “emotional nausea,” as you experience everything from grief to dread.

You might also feel differently about each child, leading to guilt. “My daughter was easy and I was devastated when she left, but my middle son struggled and I wanted him to start a new chapter.” Simply remind yourself that such contrasting feelings are natural, she assures. “Every emotion you feel is valid.”

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