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Help! She's angry with me for being unwell

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I don’t check my breasts regularly. When my female partner was advised to have a mammogram, I got worried, felt around and, unfortunately, I seem to have a lump. But when I mentioned it to her, she said I was upstaging her, and not to make a big thing of it. The relationship’s not going well right now, so perhaps she’s just making trouble. But perhaps I’m imagining the lump?

SUSAN SAYS

Your partner is dismissing your health concerns, telling you not to have a perfectly sensible checkup. Is your relationship so full of bad feelings that she thinks you're imagining cancer just to hurt her? You must see your doctor to discover what's going on in your body. And you and your partner must see a counsellor to discover what’s going on in your relationship!

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