THE COST OF TRUE FRIENDSHIP

WE TALK A BIG GAME ABOUT CONNECTION, community, soul friendships, loyalty, and love. However, let things get a little messy, a little raw, and people disappear like smoke.

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You say the wrong thing, have a bad day, don't reply to texts or emails in a “timely” manner (or not at all)—and suddenly folks back away, disappear, often in silence. You're left wondering why they vanished and what you did wrong.

Several years ago, a good friend was found guilty of a serious crime. Before she was sentenced, we had a conversation I'll never forget.

We talked about what would happen—what this new reality might look like and how we'd stay connected. That's when she asked me something that sliced through the air like a blade, quiet but unshakably powerful: Are you willing to do time with me?

I've thought about those words ever since. I let them whisper to me in the quiet hours because what she was really asking was so much bigger than the request appeared to be on the surface. The question was no longer just about her. She was asking me: