Everything in my life seems to have gone wrong at once

The Indy's agony aunt Victoria Richards is here to help

- Voices/ Dear Vix

Dear Vix, I met and fell in love with my amazing partner in 2000.

We married eight months after our first date, moved back to our home country - Canada - and had two children (now 15 and 16). But getting pregnant with our second son ended our intimacy and things got worse after I became a stay-at-home mom.

I began to get resentful – I felt I had zero support and my kids were suffering. My husband started to put his attention elsewhere with a colleague 22 years younger than him. Fast-forward seven years and he left me and my boys for her, just before Covid hit. I had my kids full time, while also being an essential worker – a postie - with no support. As my ex and his new partner were pregnant, they didn't want any chance of exposure, so I had my boys pretty much full-time for a year.

Fast forward to now: they have a new family, but I've crashed and burned and lost everything. I'm now living in a shelter and see my kids once a week. I am trying my damndest to find housing and to get my boys back. I am on medication and in therapy to manage my severe anxiety and recently returned to work (and am excited about it).