Festive season joy eludes many

MENTAL HEALTH: DARK SIDE OF DECEMBER CHEER

- Hein Kaiser

The festive season sells everyone the dream of goodness and joy for all mankind. There are Santas everywhere, fairy lights and happy selfies that drive doomscrolling.

But for many South Africans, the season cruises without good cheer and closer to a crash landing than a touchdown. Instead of joy there is strain, dread, old wounds could resurface and days could be like a dark blanket dropped over your being.

Psychologist and medical doctor Dr Jonathan Redelinghuys said the closing stretch of the year could deliver emotional contradictions that are hard to reconcile emotionally.

"December and January symbolise an end and a beginning. Although this may bring relief and accomplishment for some, for others it may be a reminder of all that they have endured," he said.

Research by mental health professionals have noted the same pattern. The festive season disrupts routines, increases expectations and amplifies comparison. Research shows that the pressure to appear cheerful often worsens emotional strain.

It is a contrast Redelinghuys said can become overwhelming.

"The season of joy with its Hallmark-card movies, cheerful music and verdant pine trees is contrasted with overcrowded shopping centres, family arguments and financial strain," he said.