LOVE AFTER 40 How to find your ideal partner

SOME say it’s easier to find a unicorn than a great love after 40. I say it’s not only possible, it’s something that’s waiting for you if you know how to attract it.

- KAS NAIDOO

Right there, is the first secret - you don’t “find” love — you attract your ideal partner to you.

If you have come out of a challenging relationship; take the time to heal. If you are still hurting and you jump into a new relationship, in a few months you will see the patterns of the last relationship beginning to emerge. Whether it is disrespect, cheating, taking you for granted or frequent arguments; it will resurface because relationships are not here to make you happy; it’s here to make you whole.

So, if you don’t take the lessons from the last relationship, if you don’t grow because of it, life will give you another similar relationship so that this time, you will pause and take the lessons.

When you take time to do the inner-healing work, you forgive the other person and yourself, which doesn’t make the actions right, it releases you from the pain.