I'm really worried my toxic mum will ruin our wedding

I'M 29 and getting married in spring.

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Dear Coleen

It's a fairly small affair, because my fiance and I are footing the bill. His parents can't afford to contribute, my dad is dead and my mum isn't in my life much. Which brings me to my problem.

My mum has been in and out of my life over the years and I've had to be self-sufficient since I was a teen. She left Dad, which was heartbreaking. She's always been very selfish and puts herself before her kids.

When she found out I was getting married, she suddenly became much more interested in me and I've had more contact with her in the past year than I have in the 15 years before that.