Perfectly Imperfect

In the endless quest to be your best self, is it possible that you are missing some of the best parts of life? Are you missing out on the beauty and strength of imperfection?

- Jessica Lee

Desiring to be better, to learn, improve and grow is a wonderful way to approach life and has proved to be good for your health. Having goals, self-awareness and purpose in life keeps your brain focused, allowing you to achieve great things and live a vibrant and full life.

When you are a striver you believe you have unfulfilled potential and are willing to work hard to become what you know you are capable of. However, in the quest to be the best version of yourself it’s easy to become fixated on all that is “wrong” and what needs to be “fixed”. Unfortunately, focusing on what needs to be changed is not always supportive of your wellbeing, confidence or health.

As a lover of self-development and a striver myself, I struggle with wanting to be “more” but also wanting to accept myself as I am. I want more for my life yet sometimes this constant awareness of not having achieved what I want to leaves me feeling tired and heavy. I notice that when my attention is on what I want to be different I am less content and grateful for who I have become and the wonderful things I have in my life.

Lately, I have been wondering:

Amidst all the striving, where and when do I find stillness?

Within all the goal setting, where is my gratitude and the contentment for who I am now?

In the push for improvement, where is the joy, the fun and the ability to simply enjoy the present moment?

While wanting to be “better”, where is my self-compassion and the belief that I am enough as I am?

Striving less

With the push to be your best self and live your best life I have started to wonder when “average” became such a bad thing. Maybe a little less striving could be a good thing; maybe there is beauty and strength in imperfection.