Sex And Sense - Ability
Femina|June 9, 2018

The path to sizzling sex sessions may be as simple as focusing on your senses. Suchita Parikh-Mundul guides you towards your biggest orgasms yet

Suchita Parikh-Mundul

As time flies by, rocking your headboard becomes a logistical nightmare —or worse, it slips off the radar altogether. After all, kids need to be raised, bills need to be paid, and other important tasks need doing before the dirty deed gets done. Sadly, life can put quite a damper on sex. Even the most amorous couples have weeks when the sexometer drops from XXX to zzz.

Ankita Joshi, a Bangalore-based counsellor, says, “The frequency does not matter as much as the quality of sex. It just requires some effort to get your mojo going again.” Sometimes all it takes is the right kind of outfit, +movie or music. Psychiatrist and cognitive therapist Dr Shefali Batra, says, “What I do during sex therapy is use the sensate focus technique to help patients concentrate on their five senses—sight, sound, smell, touch and taste. Stimulating your senses enhances your sexual experience.” The ticket to arousal, sexual performance and heightened pleasure, after all is to tickle the five senses the right way.

This simple yet brilliant psychological Jedi mind trick explains why setting the stage works so well to get into the mood when you’re planning an intimate night. Dr Batra says, “The orgasm may be the ultimate goal, but the journey towards it is what makes for an enhanced sexual experience.”

So here are tips to tap those senses and get onto the super-sex highway.

TAKE A LOOK AT THIS

When your aim is to clamber back onto the sex bandwagon, visual appeal is key. Raima Sheth*, a 29-year-old homemaker, says, “I’ve been married four years now, and I can tell you from experience that if you or your partner dress up sexy, it will get the juices flowing for sure.”

Sheth’s on the right path. The effort you put into dressing up in a saucy lingerie or a cowboy outfit often results in success. When you look naughty, you feel naughty too.

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