Parenting, Passed Down

Genes aren't the only things we inherit. Readers share the rules and traditions that made them the parents they are today.

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Winning Hearts

Both of my parents chose service professions (teaching and nursing) and spent nights and weekends volunteering. Both taught that a life dedicated to helping others is one full of purpose and meaning.

I am a physician and have worked with the homeless community for 11 years. I'm also a mom to two boys who dirt bike. At their first race, my oldest went first and managed to catch a little air. My youngest surprised me even more. Every time a rider fell or crashed, he'd stop and wait until they got up. He lost the race but won at being a good human. Parenting isn't easy, but it'll surprise you.

— SARA DOORLEY Tijeras, New Mexico

Just Fishin'

My dad was an avid fisherman and loved taking me with him. We'd wake early and drive to his favorite hole.

We'd stop for breakfast, and he'd get steak and eggs. I'd be his helper launching the boat, holding the line while he parked the car. Then we'd head out to catch “the big one." Now I take my granddaughter fishing. She has caught bullhead and bass—what excitement!—and can cast her own line. Nana hooks the worms.

The Trace Adkins song “Just Fishin'" goes, “She ain't even thinkin' 'bout what's really goin' on right now, but I guarantee this memory's a big'in and she thinks we're just fishin." Every time I hear it, I feel my dad's love. I hope my granddaughter feels my love for her.

- BARBARA FAGENBAUM Penfield, New York

Banding Together

I started band as a high-school freshman with my brother's baritone horn. I didn't have prior lessons as my bandmates did, so it was much harder for me. When I told my mom I was quitting, she promptly told me I was not. In due time I absolutely loved band.