7 tricks to feel SEXY THIS SUMMER

Struggling with a dwindling libido? Try these tips to reignite your sensual side

- DEBRA WATERS

Almost a quarter of Brits haven’t had sex in the last month*, despite it being good for us – benefits of regular steamy sessions  include increased immunity, lower stress levels and improved heart health. Rarely in the mood? Menopause and ageing can have an impact, but whatever the date on your passport, it’s still possible to feel passionate and flirty. Here are seven tricks to help get your sex life back on track.

1 BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

Middle-aged spread and menopausal symptoms can dampen self-esteem – and, in turn, desire – so finding ways to accept your changing body is crucial. ‘The critical voice that focuses on your ageing or sagging bits isn’t your friend,’ says menopause coach Claire Snowdon- Darling, founder of Balanced Wellness. ‘It takes discipline, but every time a negative thought creeps in, take a second to reframe it with a positive one about yourself. Over time, you’ll find an appreciation of your fabulous body!’

In order to feel sexy and wanted, you also need to be sure of your own needs. ‘Confidence helps you release shame about your desires, so you’ll feel less inhibited and ready to claim pleasure,’ says sex therapist Rhian Kivits. ‘When you feel more confident, you’ll then feel able to ask for what you want and like in bed.’

Struggling with low sexual self-esteem? Try speaking to a sexual therapist. Find one at cosrt.org.uk.