CLINGY, CHILL OR CONFUSED?

Decoding Attachment Styles in Modern Love

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From secure to disorganised, discover how the way you text, trust and love reveals the hidden patterns shaping your relationships.

Think back to your last "three dots" moment on WhatsApp, the one where your partner took hours to reply. Did you shrug it off, assuming they were just busy or did your mind spiral into, "A re they losing interest?" That single reaction isn't just a random occurrence but your attachment style at work.

Attachment styles aren't just psychology jargon; they're the invisible scripts guiding you on how you love, argue and even how quickly you double-text. And in our twenties and thirties, a stage that is bursting with career stress, dating apps, social media pressures and delayed milestones, these patterns become even more pronounced. Let's unpack the four major attachment styles, explore why so many of us are caught in the messy middle and find out why your style isn't a life sentence but a map towards healthier, more secure connections.

Secure Attachment: The Relationship Unicorn

"I'm comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me." If you're securely attached, congratulations, you've won the relationship lottery! You probably had regular, responsive and healthy care as a child and now you engage in relationships with a perfect mix of autonomy and closeness. You are able to communicate your needs effectively, resolve conflict without losing your cool and truly believe that other people are generally well-meaning.

Quick check: When your partner appears to be distant due to some reason, what is the first thought that comes to your mind: Is it "I wonder what's on their mind" instead of "What did I do wrong?"

Avoidant Attachment: The Emotional Fortress