HOW DO I KNOW WHEN TO LET GO OF PAST GOALS OR DREAMS?

Many of us harbour deep ambitions that are an essential part of how we see ourselves - perhaps you fantasised about becoming a successful novelist or professional athlete, or to settle down and start a family.

- LANEY FOX, STAFFORD

At the same time, it's difficult to escape the ubiquitous message, echoing through many popular psychology books and emblazoned on so many cushions and kitschy wall posters - that if we want to achieve our dreams, we mustn't give up; we must be gritty and stubborn and determined.