You go to the gym to hate yourself

For 29 years, even as I watched my male peers swell into their singlets, I resisted going to the gym. The gym, I told myself, was that sad room padded with carnival mirrors where one went to perfect his self-hatred.

- Shawn Hoo

It was ruled by men who were fitness ideologues and fanatics about self-discipline, I told myself, the same men who were the beneficiaries of good genetics.

I, on the other hand, lived in the long shadow of believing I was terrible with my body ever since I was exiled from the handball team in Primary 5 on Sports Day to a more "effete" sport-moving bean bags quickly from one hula hoop to another.

The way I carried that resentment beyond my adolescent years was to reject the valorisation of fitness and all who preach its cult - also associated with the cult of masculinity, which I did not feel I belonged to.

I would not let the melancholy I feel towards my body swell into the voluptuous sadness of the H fitness bros in my life, whose N full range of motion in life seems atomised into reps and sets.

Other men, as I learn from fitness videos that flood my social algorithm, try to get over their early resentment by proving they can exceed their own bodily shame the scrawny, bullied boy who bulks himself an armour.

They speak of "transformation", but I cannot shake off the feeling that they are leaving behind their inner child.