The problem is all the men who want to sleep with her

As the discourse surrounding OnlyFans star Bonnie Blue’s extreme sex challenge’ becomes deafening, Olivia Petter asks if we’re focusing on the wrong thing in this sorry tale

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Imagine you’re in a queue. Surrounded by men you don’t know, some of whom are just in their boxers, you find yourself waiting around for hours on the staircase of a £15m mansion. Perhaps you exchange some small talk with the man in front of you: he’s wearing a balaclava. Mostly, though, you just stand in silence, interrupted only occasionally by sounds of moaning from a nearby room somewhere at the top of the staircase. For now, though, you just wait until it’s your turn to be in that room yourself, having sex with a 25-year-old woman you’ve never met.

This was the situation facilitated earlier this month by OnlyFans star Bonnie Blue, who claims to have slept with a recordbreaking 1,057 men in 12 hours. Blue, whose real name is Tia Billinger, has faced an inordinate amount of opprobrium for her so-called “extreme sex stunts”; she proudly talks about sleeping with fathers and sons simultaneously and encourages “grandads and husbands” to take part in her challenges. She has been labelled a slag, a skank and a liar, with many decrying it impossible to bed that many men in the timeframe Blue alleges. The health risks have been pored over, as have her incentives for doing all this, with some calling it a bizarre cash grab while others have called it a trauma response.

All this is to say that the Bonnie Blue discourse is hardly waning any time soon, nor is it short of subjects. But one angle seems to be being completely ignored: what about the men? This brings me back to the queue, video footage of which has been going viral on Instagram. In it, you can see men of all ages, truly just standing around, waiting to sleep with Blue. Whether there were really 1,000 or not is less important than the fact that they were there, buying into the idea of guaranteed sex with a young woman alongside several other men, treating her like some sort of strange commodity.