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I'm a virgin at 27 – should I admit that to people I date?

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September 04, 2025

The Indy’s agony aunt Victoria Richards is here to help

- Victoria Richards

I'm a virgin at 27 – should I admit that to people I date?

Dear Vix,

I am a 27-year-old woman and I’m a virgin. I have just recently become interested in the dating scene. I am wondering how I can tell a guy that I'm a virgin in a way that won't run him off in the other direction.

How do I approach this kind of situation in the modern dating scene?

Uncertain

Dear Uncertain,

First of all, I want to reassure you that you're not alone. Last year, I remember reading about the actor Rebel Wilson: beautiful, successful, funny - and a virgin until she was 35.

"Not everybody has to lose their virginity as a teenager," she writes in her memoir, Rebel Rising. The Pitch Perfect actor goes on to describe herself as a "late bloomer".

"People can wait till they're ready or wait till they're a bit more mature," she writes. "And I think that could be a positive message. You obviously don't have to wait until you're in your thirties like me, but you shouldn't feel pressure as a young person."

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