She took revenge for a 'selfish' trip

HOW do I handle a spiteful, cruel partner who seeks to crush and control me at every turn?

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She doesn’t like me seeing friends or having any kind of life away from her.

Recently an old school friend invited me to go sailing with him. I picked my moment and casually mentioned this to my girl. She went crazy. She accused me of being selfish.

How did I propose to pay for this trip and what was she supposed to do while I was away?

I gently explained I had asked my sister to come and stay over. I added that I planned to give my sis €100 to buy food and drink and, basically, babysit my girl (who is 32).

My girl went into a massive sulk and refused to speak to me. I returned from my sailing trip to find she'd dismissed my sister (but kept the €100) and cut up all my shirts and thrown away all my trainers.