The Anti-Social Century

Americans are now spending more time alone than ever. It's changing our personalities, our politics, and even our relationship to reality.

- Derek Thompson

The Bar Is Closed

A short drive from my home in North Carolina is a small Mexican restaurant, with several tables and four stools at a bar facing the kitchen. On a sweltering afternoon last summer, I walked in with my wife and daughter. The place was empty. But looking closer, I realized that business was booming. The bar was covered with to-go food: nine large brown bags.

As we ate our meal, I watched half a dozen people enter the restaurant without sitting down to eat. Each one pushed open the door, walked to the counter, picked up a bag from the bar, and left. In the delicate choreography between kitchen and customer, not a word was exchanged. The space once reserved for that most garrulous social encounter, the bar hangout, had been reconfigured into a silent depot for customers to grab food to eat at home.

Until the pandemic, the bar was bustling and popular with regulars. "It's just a few seats, but it was a pretty happening place," Rae Mosher, the restaurant's general manager, told me. "I can't tell you how sad I've been about it," she went on. "I know it hinders communications between customers and staff to have to-go bags taking up the whole bar. But there's nowhere else for the food to go." She put up a sign:

BAR SEATING CLOSED.

The sign on the bar is a sign of the times for the restaurant business. In the past few decades, the sector has shifted from tables to takeaway, a process that accelerated through the pandemic and continued even as the health emergency abated. In 2023, 74 percent of all restaurant traffic came from "off premises" customers-that is, from takeout and delivery-up from 61 percent before COVID, according to the National Restaurant Association.