MYTHICAL MADNESS

In their new book, clinical psychologists and married couples' therapists Shahn Baker Sorekli and Helen Robertson provide a unique blend of evidence-based techniques and heartfelt guidance to turn any relationship into a life-enhancing bond. Here they unlock the sex myths holding you back from greater intimacy & how to fix them...

- SHAHN BAKER SOREKLI & HELEN ROBERTSON

Sexual myths (SMs) are the second category of roadblocks to a thriving sexual connection. SMs are false beliefs and attitudes that influence a couple's sex life. They're unquestioned, implicit ideas, and can contribute to unrealistic expectations and unnecessary

pressure. If entrenched, SMs can lead to dissatisfaction or issues in the bedroom. It's important to identify the myth you hold and work in opposition to it. We've outlined some SMs, and how to oppose them, here. Keep in mind many SMs exist, and this list is by no means exhaustive.

SPONTANEITY IS KEY

This is the belief sex should always be spontaneous and unplanned. Holding this myth, however, is hard to navigate. With busy lives, it is easy for sex to slip off the priority list. This myth disregards the importance of communication and intentionality in a healthy and active sex life.

SOLUTION: schedule sex into your life. In the My Love YoYo app, we have created an exercise, where you discuss and schedule sex, called Making Time for Sexy Time.

PENETRATIVE SEX IS THE ONLY REAL SEX

This is the misconception that sex is only valid if it involves penetrative intercourse. Such a myth neglects the diversity of sexuality and intimate activities, while adding pressure to perform penetrative sex, potentially leading to performance issues both in men and women. It neglects other forms of sexual pleasure that can be equally as sexually satisfying.

SOLUTION: spend more time on non-penetrative sex. See foreplay as sex rather than something that happens before sex. Try the permission sex challenge and focus on touching only!

ORGASMS ARE REQUISITE FOR SATISFACTION