WHY I CHOSE MY SON OVER MY MARRIAGE

Nama Winston, 44, has no regrets about her relationship ending

- NAMA WINSTON.

At the risk of sounding like I used my husband simply as a sperm donor, I admit that I lost interest in him the moment my baby was born. It wasn’t his fault. I had loved my husband for a decade before we had our son. I was his third wife, we had a two-decade age difference between us, and he already had two kids - but, somehow, it worked. Until I decided it wasn’t working anymore. People love to blame their spouse for the breakdown of their marriage, but I’ve always known that it was largely my fault.

We’d had a good marriage, and we’d been together for all of my 20s and married in 2003. I thought we were happy, but then, in 2007, I had a baby - and that little man changed everything.

NOTHING ELSE MATTERED

Winston, born by emergency caesarean at 32 weeks – taught me so much about family and real love in a way I hadn’t before experienced.

I was obsessed with him. Yes, partly because he was a much-longed for IVF baby. Yes, because he was super cute and so much fun, right from the start. But mostly because I had worked so hard to be in this position – to become a mother – that nothing else really mattered to me after that.