When You Are Nowhere Near The Altar

Why he won’t marry you even after you have been dating for years

- Mo and Phindi Grootboom

LET’S get this straight. You are a 45-year-old woman with two children from a man who won’t marry you for the past 15 years of your relationship despite your expressed desire to get married. Now you are confused because you don’t know how to introduce him to people, and you want to know if you should break up with him or not?

MARRIAGE TOPIC Firstly, who does he say he is to you when he introduces you? Also how do you bring up the issue, how long have you been talking about it and at what point in your relationship did you first bring up the marriage subject? This is very important. Equally important is why it is so crucial that you get married, especially to a man that clearly isn’t sharing your vision about life? Wasn’t this discussed before or at the beginning of the relationship? We are not saying you shouldn’t desire to be married or that you are not allowed to change your mind. But we would like for you to challenge your own intentions, against the backdrop of the condition of your relationship as it stands.