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The Problem With Positive Thinking

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August 2020

It sells self-help books by the millions; there are even songs based on the idea: think positive, and everything will work out. But playing Pollyanna is not the cure-all it’s cracked up to be.

- Charis Torrance

The Problem With Positive Thinking

From a young age, we’re told to ‘turn that frown upside down’: think positive, be optimistic, don’t dwell on the negative. Pop culture is littered with ads, songs, movies, TV shows and self-help gurus who relay the same message: just look on the bright side! Whether you want to bag your dream job, achieve your ideal weight or go to the Olympics, an optimistic attitude will get you there.

In some ways, they might be right. Studies have shown that positive affirmations can calm you down and lower your metabolic rate, and cultivating a grateful attitude can up your day-to-day happiness. But on the opposite end of the spectrum, forcing yourself to be positive can be draining, and it can make people who are prone to anxiety and depression feel worse about themselves.

Clinical psychologists Khosi Jiyane and Jeanie Cavé break it down for us: can positive thinking hamper mental health?

THE CULT OF POSITIVE THINKING

Positive thinking seems to be having a revival. Even The Secret, a book that was hugely popular in the early 2000s, has made a comeback: it’s now a movie starring Katie Holmes and Josh Lucas. At the heart of it lies a simple idea: that you can ‘will’ good things into your life with just your mind. ‘It’s where you willingly, willfully

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