Guest Relations

Melissa Penfold has some advice for people who want to be invited back.

- Melissa Penfold

GOOD GUESTS are invited everywhere because they give an evening zip. They are congenial, undemanding, thoughtful and entertaining, good at small talk, witty, clever at picking up small clues, filling awkward silences, making people feel comfortable and keeping the mood light. If you’re a perfect guest you’ll be out all the time. You’ll never have to cook again. Here are the rules: DO NOT ARRIVE EARLY It is rude. Walk around the block, go and pick up some fresh flowers, anything. DON’T BE LATE Be upfront with the host about your ETA. Don’t give minute-to-minute updates about fictitious taxis or phantom traffic jams. Also, give the host permission to proceed without you, or if you’re going to be really late, ask if it’s better if you don’t come. BE THOUGHTFUL Don’t bring subpar, last-minute wine to dinner parties. As much of a no-brainer you may think the bottle of wine-as-tribute is, therein lies its downfall: very little thought. DON’T PRESSURE YOUR HOSTS to serve your bottle of wine – unless it really is an amazing treat. Champagne is a foolproof gift, as it won’t interfere with the meal.