Dry Spell, No More!

Are you experiencing a sex drought in your relationship? Neeti Jaychander lists out tips to get back in the game

- Neeti Jaychander

The excitement is always palpable in a new relationship. Right from grooming, to paying attention to your outfit or tiny details for those dinner dates and movie nights, the enthusiasm constantly keeps us on our toes. And while you and your partner are still discovering each other’s habits and behaviour patterns, the sexual chemistry with a new beau is probably the highlight of the relationship. You look forward to a romp between the sheets and are never too tired or bored to get into the mood. You think you’ve aced it, till you fall into a rut, and your partner’s presence becomes part of your routine. Perhaps other priorities occupy your headspace or life, or you may be too stressed at work, but whatever it is, you start to taper off and sex is no longer a priority. In some cases, the situation worsens until you realize you're not having sex at all!

Dry spells are normal, no doubt. A survey conducted earlier this year by Swedish intimate lifestyle company LELO in the United States, discovered that 28 per cent of the population is going through a sex drought. Of this, 31 per cent are not focused on sex, 25 per cent are in long-distance relationships, and 24 per cent have busy work schedules. You might think you are stuck in a mundane relationship, and therefore distance yourself further from your significant other. This is a bigger mistake and will certainly not help the cause. While it’s not always easy to get back into the game, addressing a few key issues will get you going for sure!

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