"Help me overcome conflict!"

We all wince at the thought of confrontation, but being honest-even when it's uncomfortable can deepen ties. Here, kind ways to do just that

- Kristina Mastrocola

Outsmart fears

Discover your story

Redefine conflict as something that can improve your relationships, urges expert Rosalie Puiman. “It’s not about fighting; rather, it’s about owning up to our differences and making that transparent.” To discover what may be holding you back, she advises reflecting on your “conflict story.” “Ask yourself, ‘What is it I fear? Is my worry generic or focused on specific people?’ When you know your conflict story, you can start changing it.”

Narrow your focus

To allay anxiety around conflict, adopt the WAC strategy, urges expert Barbara Pachter. What’s really bothering you?

“Maybe your boss keeps asking you to work overtime with no warning.” Once you’ve identified the problem,