Dear Coleen

The Straight - talking problem page So upset after my wife admitted she kissed workmate

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Dear Coleen

I'm a man in my 30s and I'm having a tough time in my marriage. We've only been married four years and I've recently found out that my wife kissed another guy she knows through work.

Apparently, they don't work together directly, as they're not in the same team. She told me about the kiss herself, as I think the guilt became too much for her. She said they got on well and the friendship became flirtatious, and then one night after work they kissed.

She claims she realised right away that she didn't want to take things any further and immediately felt bad about what had happened. It took her about a week to admit it.