Stroppy partner is so lazy it feels like having another kid

I'm a 45-year-old woman and have been with my partner for 15 years and we have two children aged eight and 11.

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Dear Coleen

I'm so unhappy in my relationship because I'm the one doing everything – I'm the main breadwinner, I do most of the kids’ stuff and keep everything going – cooking, cleaning and admin.

He has a job, but not a stressful one, and spends all his money on himself (on God knows what). I pay for holidays, treats and luxuries, as well as all our clothes and everything the kids need. That would be OK if he contributed in other ways, but he's lazy and selfish.