Complement Over Compromise

It's time for a new relationship paradigm

- Terez Hartmann

THE COST OF COMPROMISE

I feel the need for speed. He prefers to walk at a more moderate pace. Yet, somehow we still manage to enjoy BEING together.

You may ask: “How can this possibly work?” Someone must surely compromise in order for there to be any semblance of togetherness on the road of life? Surely someone needs to slow down or the other should speed up to make things work—otherwise, with such different rhythms, there would be virtually no interaction except to possibly share the car ride to and from the destination of the moment. Given this scenario, here is what typically happens:

Door #1: One person continually holds back to match the pace of the other when it is her/his nature to allow energy and flow, which compromises joy, expressing her/his core self, physical health and overall well-being.

Door #2: One person pushes her/himself to keep pace and catch up with the other, moving at a speed and rate that she/he is not yet ready for that is actually detrimental, which also compromises joy, expressing her/his core self, physical health and overall well-being.

Door #3: Both parties do this continually and NEITHER ever gets to operate in her/his optimal flow, with BOTH parties perpetually compromising—you guessed it—joy, expressing her/his core self, physical health and overall well-being.

Given THESE options, most freedom-loving beings who want to be happy and live long and prosper would opt out—and it’s no wonder why so many people who have chosen to take one of these three doors (ALL of which lead to compromise), find themselves in a place of power struggle, conditional happiness or ultimately ending a relationship.

THE GAIN FROM INTENDING TO COMPLEMENT