Are you with THE ONE?

These questions will reveal whether you and your partner are perfectly matched or badly suited

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Relationships naturally go through ups and downs through the years, but are you worried those rough patches are a sign of a bigger problem? There are common themes that make couples compatible and also some red flags to watch out for, says psychologist and relationship expert Carmen Harra*.

So, how do you know if you’re both in it for the long haul? To answer that, Carmen suggests asking yourself these 10 key relationship questions (right). Take the quiz to see how you and your partner measure up.

1 DO YOU FEEL CALM AND SETTLED AROUND YOUR PARTNER?

■Yes, you have genuine peace of mind when you're with them.

● Most of the time, apart from when you're both stressed out.

▲ Not really, your partner causes you stress, worry and anxiety.

2 WHAT DOES YOUR FUTURE LOOK LIKE TO YOU?

■You're really looking forward to growing old with your partner.

● You've yet to make long-term plans, but know you'll be together.

▲ It's actually hard to imagine beyond the next few months.

3 HOW DOES YOUR PARTNER TREAT MEMBERS OF YOUR FAMILY?

■They have strong family values and close ties with yours.

● Your partner makes an effort - with a little prompting from you!

▲ Your family isn't a big priority for them.

4 DO YOU BOTH SHARE THE SAME MINDSET AND VALUES?

■Your values and goals are in sync.

● You have different opinions, but agree on the important things.