My 14-year-old is going too far, too fast with her beau

The Indy's agony aunt Victoria Richards is here to help

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I'm going out of my mind with worry about my daughter. She’s only 14 but has already had a steady boyfriend for a year - and I think they're having sex. It feels far too soon, far too fast, far too heavy and I’m terrified: not only about teenage pregnancy, but about whether she is emotionally ready to be making such big life choices.

I'm worried all the time for her - about her being heartbroken, about her being caught on camera doing something intimate, about STDs, about her schoolwork and this being a big distraction.

The boy is kind and respectful and they do both really seem to care about each other, but whenever I ask her about what they're doing physically - and how she feels about it - she clams up and won't tell me anything. I've tried leaving leaflets about contraception in her bedroom, but she throws them away and tells me, “I know!!”

I was a teenage boy and I know what they're like - that’s why I'm so worried. What do I do?

Single Father.

Dear Single Father,

Oof, I feel your pain and worry around this for you. It can’t be easy, raising a teenage girl - let alone one who is relatively early in navigating a serious romantic relationship.