From conflict to connection: strategies for healthy communication

WHILE some people see conflict as a sign of a troubled relationship, the reality is that conflict is inevitable. The key factor that distinguishes between healthy and unhealthy relationships is how we navigate conflict.

- RAKHI BEEKRUM.

The purpose of conflict: The objective of conflict is not to win — but to achieve mutual understanding. Healthy conflict allows us to address unmet needs and find mutually-acceptable solutions to problems. The absence of conflict can mean that resentment can erode the relationship. When conflict is handled maturely and constructively, conflict can lead to deeper connection and empathy.

How to argue constructively:

Conflict becomes destructive when one resorts to criticism, blame, name-calling, contempt or avoidance. To argue constructively, we need to allow ourselves to process our emotions first. When we are emotionally regulated, we can think more clearly about how we would like the issue to be resolved and approach the discussion in a problem-solving manner, instead of focusing on blame.