HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS WITH LOVED ONES

Do you avoid having difficult conversations at all costs? Is disappearing through the floor more appealing to you than broaching that topic? You are definitely not alone.

- BY Zara Esufally

Confrontation can be scary, and if approached in the wrong manner, can leave a situation worse than it was found. On the other hand, avoiding confrontation doesn't really help either. Not addressing our needs as and when they occur can result in feelings of resentment towards and detachment from our loved ones. As these negative feelings build, so does the distance between us and them until it eventually feels unsurmountable.

Fear of ruining the relationship we might worry that bringing up sensitive issues or setting boundaries may result in the other party feeling hurt or betrayed. As a result, we may choose to remain discontent, falsely believing that we are 'keeping the peace'.

Emotional insecurity addressing both, our needs and our shortcomings in a relationship require a significant deal of introspection, and this is not easy! Vulnerability can feel scary, and thus we may avoid it to maintain a perceived sense of control.