LET THEM!

Parul Karn unpacks the dating theory Gen Z swears by — a no-drama approach - with insights from experts and thoughts from teens

- Parul Karn

When you let things be, they reveal how they truly are. The real habits, emotions, and approaches someone holds towards life and relationships come out. It's better than holding on to unrealistic expectations only to watch them fall flat in real life. The 'let them' dating trend liberates you from enforcing anything on anyone and is especially helpful during the early days of dating. It's all about never asking them to do anything. Like they say, “If they wanted to, they would” when it comes to the good things in a relationship.

ZEN Z ENERGY IS ABOUT LETTING THEM, FINDING YOURSELF

Ekta Khurana, New Delhi-based psychologist and founder - The Mind Home, breaks down the 'let them' mindset

Picture a river. Boundaries are the stone embankments: they mark where my land ends and yours begins - solid, unmoving, sensible. Emotional detachment figuratively dams the water. It keeps you perfectly dry, but life on a dam grows a little brittle - no flow, no surprise, no lush banks. Non-attachment (the Buddhist flavour) is recognising that the river was never ours to own in the first place, (we must) just sit on the bank and admire the passing clouds inside it.