Naughty Or Nice? Find Your Sexual Archetype

Have you ever wondered what sexual archetype you identify with, and what it says about your preferences when it comes to making the beast with two backs? Charlene Flanagan helps you find out

- Charlene Flanagan

She made her way through a crowded bar in one of the city’s most popular night life districts. She was already late for drinks with her girlfriends, and the traffic didn’t help the situation. She rushed when she got a text: ‘I need a drink. Get your butt here, stat!’ She wondered what the emergency was, and since she needed a drink to unwind anyway, she headed straight there. Squeezing her way through the room filled with the chatter and clinking glasses of the Friday night crowd, she finally found her friends. After placing her order, she braced herself for what seemed like a long night of man-bashing. “He doesn’t know how to get me to climax,” her friend began, as soon as the waiter had placed their drinks on the table. “No matter the moans or verbal cues, he just doesn’t read my body. He hates it when I take control; he hates it when I tell him what to do or how to do it. I just don’t know if I can go on without a release much longer.”

Her problem, according to Delhi-based sexologist, Dr Mehak Nagpal, like 43 per cent of women in India, is that of sexual dysfunction. She seems like a regular martyr when it comes to sex, someone who sacrifices their pleasure for the sake of their partner’s. Dr Nagpal says, “The relationship between sexual dysfunction and psychological variables such as personality traits and coping mechanisms is not well understood by most people. Several large-scale reviews of sexuality found that biological characteristics play an important role in our sexual personalities.”