How to have a HEALTHIER DIVORCE

Get past a painful split and feel much stronger, both mentally and physically

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Struggling to get a handle on your heartbreak? No matter the reason for it, separation can feel devastating.

In fact, divorce is ranked second only to the death of a loved one on the list of most stressful life events*. January usually has a surge of enquiries about divorce, often triggered by a stressful Christmas period. So, if you find your relationship ending as the new year is starting, we're here to help. Just know that healing takes time and energy - you'll have bad days and moments of grief and sadness, but there are ways to get through it.

Accept that it hurts

Even if you know it's for the best, you won't feel better overnight after a breakup. 'Everybody copes with separation differently,' says Sara Davison, aka the Divorce Coach. 'It depends on your personality, lifestyle, financial situation and whether you have kids, or if it was your decision.' There's no right or wrong and you may just want to stay in bed, but trust that the dark times will pass.

Avoid wallowing

It's important to cry and process your emotions, says Sara, and for this you'll need compassionate friends. 'Not the friend who is going to help you chop up his clothes, but one who can give constructive advice,' she says. An exercise buddy who will go on walks with you is perfect, she adds.

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