Helping children cope WITH RELOCATION

My husband gets frequently transferred for work.

- GAYATHRI RAO

How can I help my daughter adjust to frequent school changes and losing old friends?

— Hima Sahay, Chennai

Frequent school changes due to job relocations are unsettling for children. But parents can ease this transition with thoughtful support.

• Prepare your daughter by discussing an imminent transfer, explaining why it’s happening, and encouraging her to express her emotions, including melancholy about leaving familiar environments.

• Involve her in the relocation process. Discuss and explore new school and extra-curricular options. Highlight the positives, such as new friends and experiences, while also acknowledging any fear she may have of the unfamiliar.

After relocation, it’s important to maintain familiar routines, such as bedtime stories and weekend family bonding rituals, as this creates emotional stability in changing times. Encourage her to remain connected with old friends through video calls and reiterate that relationships can endure despite separation. Encourage participation in extracurricular activities at the new school as it will help her make new friends. Most important, after you relocate, spend quality time with her to help her adjust to changed circumstances.