Disciplining children CHALLENGES

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- Dr. Mallika Raghavendra

My eight-year-old daughter doesn't listen to instructions and is out of control. She is also very hyperactive. Please advise. - Sanvi Mehta, Mumbai

There may be many reasons why your daughter is "out of control". The antidote depends on whether this is recent or consistent behaviour pattern.

If it's recent, there may be something troubling your daughter either at school, home or with friends. Instead of scolding her, find out what's bothering her. Spend quality time with her take her out to the park or play a board game. When she is relaxed and appreciative of your comforting presence, she is likely to open up about her problems.

If she still continues to be unruly, set limits and sanctions and explain clearly the consequences of breaking them. Be firm about enforcing set rules and limits. On the other hand, if this is a persistent behaviour pattern for many years, it could be due to her being hyperactive. Consult a professional therapist/ counsellor for advice.