EMBRACING YOUR MIDLIFE JOURNEY AS A MOTHER

This month, Dr Bisi Laniyan, Clinical Psychologist and Adult Specialist at Sage Clinics offers her expert insight into navigating the challenges of midlife as a woman and mother.

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Many mothers experience the phenomenon of a ‘midlife crisis’. Perhaps you’ve just celebrated a milestone birthday, and suddenly, the reality of your own mortality hits home - you’re not as young as you used to be. Or maybe your children have flown the nest, leaving you with a profound sense of emptiness and uncertainty about how to fill your days. You might feel a mix of nostalgia and anticipation, wondering what’s next in this uncharted territory. For so many women and mums, these significant life events or role transitions often trigger what we call a ‘midlife crisis.’

UNDERSTANDING THE MIDLIFE CRISIS

The term ‘midlife’ typically refers to the age range of 40 to 60, but it’s more about a life stage than a specific number. The renowned psychologist Carl Jung described it as ‘the afternoon of life,’ a phase distinct from both early and later adulthood. This period often ushers in existential questions such as, “What’s the meaning of life?” and “What have I accomplished?” It’s a time for deep introspection and pondering over whether you are living your true purpose or fulfilling the role you want to be within your family and society in general.

For many mothers, this introspective journey is accompanied by the practical concern of how to fill newfound free time. The increase in unstructured time can mean unresolved issues from the past may surface, leading to regrets about unfulfilled dreams and dissatisfaction with the current state of life.