My new man's all about the sex but I want romance

I'M a woman in my 30s and have started dating again after coming out of a long-term relationship.

- Dear Coleen

I met this one guy online and we instantly clicked, and it didn't hurt that he's very attractive. We live near each other, which is convenient and we're now in quite an intense sexual relationship.

At first it was exciting, but now I'm feeling a bit put off because he's so obsessed with sex. He sends me very rude texts during the day when I'm at work, which I could never repeat in this letter.

Again, at first, it was a turn on, but now I find myself wanting him to just say "Hi, how's it going" or send a sweet, romantic message.

The sex is good but he's so obsessed with my body and can stare at me naked for hours, and he's extremely complimentary.